Do you get the dilemma? My personal new motto is to not bother with people who don't bother with me. From experience, I've learnt it's not worth the effort and energy if it's not reciprocated. We never even thought we'd actually get the wedding invite. Even though we moved, my Dad still kept the old house and sometimes rents it out. He goes there often to check for post etc. He (by chance) saw this "family friend" (the Dad) who told him that his daughter was getting married and he'll be inviting us. A lot of the time, when people bump into you unexpectedly, they just say things for the sake of it. So none of us actually expected to receive the invite.
But, two days ago, the bride-to-be's Mother phoned for our new address. And on the same day, the bride-to-be's Sisters drove by to give us the invite. Which was pretty shocking. But we got the invite anyway. So, naturally, my Mum got all excited but starting having a panic attack about who would wear what. I told her that I didn't really want to go.
Later on, at dinner, my Mum blurted out "these two (me & my Big Sister) aren't going to the wedding" to my Dad. He scolded us and told us that the Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) said that whenever somebody invites you to something, you should accept their invite and go. I never knew that. But still, I didn't want to go.
My Mum said, "just go for the free food! And plus, they've done a head count already that all of us are going to be there. You can't not go! " But I really do not want to go. Partly it's through laziness. Partly because weddings are so boring, you just go, watch the bride walk in to her choice of song. Everyone sits down, and eats and then talks to friends. Then they all depart. We've been invited to the Mendhi as well, but it's on a thursday night and I have uni the next day at 10 am! Plus my Mum tends to get really stressed about "getting out of the house" as we're all "too slow" for her liking. Most likely reluctant, not slow. Most might enjoy "dressing up" but I really hate making an effort and wearing sparkly traditional dress, and making my make-up not look too overdone/pasty and wearing stillettoes. All this just for a "family friend." Is it worth it?
Plus is it just me or does anyone else get judging vibes at weddings? What I mean is all the girls stare at each other and proper look at what they're wearing, and if it's "islamic" enough, and if they're make-up's good etc... Part of this is paranoia. And I myself am guilty of doing this, mostly without realising. But it does happen.
The only thing that's swaying me towards possibly going is the "free food"- it is Nawaab after all. I'm still unsure of whether or not to go. I'll most probably get dragged along anyway. *sigh*. At least the invites are pretty.
